10 Sexy Things to Say During Sex (and What Not To)

Sexual chemistry isn’t just about touch. It’s also about words. The things we say—or don’t say—can amplify intimacy, create trust, or… instantly kill the mood.

Dirty talk can feel awkward at first, especially if you’ve never tried it. But the truth is, talking during sex doesn’t have to be extreme or scripted. It can be as simple as reassurance, praise, or letting your partner know how much you want them. Positive affirmations are the cornerstone of good sex talk.

Here are 10 things that can turn heat into fire—and a few phrases you’ll want to avoid.

1. “You feel so good.”

Simple. Honest. Powerful. No matter the position, letting your partner know what they’re doing to your body is a gift. It boosts confidence, deepens connection, and invites them to do more of what feels amazing.
🚫 Avoid: “You suck.” Even if you meant it playfully, it lands wrong mid-thrust.

2. “I want to make you come.”

This shifts the focus to your partner’s pleasure, making them feel prioritized and desired. It’s both generous and dominant at the same time.
⚠️ Tip: Timing matters. Say it once you’re both comfortable—not before they’re fully relaxed, or it can sound like pressure instead of an invitation.

3. “I want you so badly.”

Few things are as erotic as feeling deeply wanted. This line communicates urgency, hunger, and excitement. It can also signal that you’re ready to move from teasing to something more intense.
Remember: this isn’t consent on its own. Pair desire with questions like, “Can I…?” or “Shall we…?”

4. “Yes… oh yes.”

Moans, affirmations, even an occasional expletive—these are like fuel for your lover. They say, keep going, you’re doing it right.
🚫 Avoid: “Woohoo!” “Hooray!” or anything that sounds like a football game. Enthusiasm is hot. Cheerleading, less so.

5. “What do you want me to do to you?”

This question is equal parts erotic and caring. It shows that you’re curious, attentive, and willing to follow their lead.
If your partner hesitates, don’t push. Sometimes the question alone is enough to spark new fantasies.

6. “Right there. Don’t stop.”

Partners aren’t mind readers. When they find that exact rhythm or spot—say it. It creates a roadmap for more pleasure, and it teaches them how you like to be touched.
Think of it as coaching with pleasure, not correcting with frustration.

7. “I’m coming.”

Announcing it isn’t silly—it’s sexy. It lets your partner know what’s working and makes them part of the climax. It also saves the awkward “wait, did you just…?” conversation.
🚫 Never fake it. Faked orgasms cheat both of you out of real connection.

8. “You turn me on so much when you…”

A compliment tied to their pleasure—whether it’s when they moan, orgasm, or move in a certain way—magnifies intimacy. Especially if your partner is self-conscious about stamina or performance, this kind of reassurance is deeply erotic.

9. “I’m so wet.” / “I’m so hard.”

Letting your partner know how your body is reacting is both validating and arousing. If arousal takes longer, communicate that too: “I’m starting to feel turned on, let’s keep touching.”
(Pro tip: a little lube or a cock ring can help when bodies need encouragement to catch up with desire.)

10. “You look so sexy right now.”

We all feel vulnerable when naked. A well-timed compliment can turn insecurity into confidence, helping your partner let go fully. Desire thrives in safety—and nothing builds that faster than being seen and appreciated.

Final Thoughts

Words during sex don’t need to be scripted or dirty to be powerful. They need to be genuine, affirming, and aligned with your connection. Start with positive affirmations, add curiosity, and sprinkle in raw desire when it feels natural.

Sex talk, at its best, isn’t about performance—it’s about closeness. And like all things, it only gets better with practice.