What are the best plus size sex positions?

The ones where nobody holds anybody's weight. The edge-of-bed lift, knees-up missionary with a lift, and the side-by-side tilt let the bed and a firm pillow do the work, so you line up without leaning in hard.

What sex position feels best for women?

If she likes to set the pace, try her on top. With the pillow under his hips, she doesn't have to crouch low or hold herself up to find the angle, so her knees and thighs work less.

Which position is easiest on the knees?

Bed-edge, face down. She lies face down with the pillow under her hips at the edge of the bed, feet on the floor, and he stands at the bedside. Nobody kneels on the mattress.

8 Best Plus Size Sex Positions That Work With Your Bodies, Not Against Them. Here's How One Firm 27° Pillow Lines You Both Up…

Q: Will a sex pillow hold our weight?

The WildNightX Pillow is 60 kg/m³ memory foam rated for 260+ lbs, so it keeps its shape where a bed pillow goes flat. Its silicone grip base also keeps it from sliding.

Short answer: The best plus size sex positions work with your bodies, not against them, and most come down to getting the angle right and keeping it. Start with the edge-of-bed lift on the WildNightX Pillow, a firm 27° memory foam wedge rated for 260+ lbs, with a grip base that stays put.

"We both were having a hard time getting a proper angle to really do anything." That's how one plus size couple put it on Reddit. Maybe you know the feeling.

A lot of advice out there still starts with the same tired line: lose weight first. Not here. Every position below is picked for the bodies you have tonight.

Most of the time, the real fix is the angle, and keeping it. A soft bed pillow can't hold it, and neither can a flimsy wedge. One Reddit user said of a cheap wedge they bought, "it flattens as soon as I put my weight on it."

That's why every position uses the WildNightX Pillow: a firm 27° memory foam wedge rated for 260+ lbs, with a silicone grip base that stays put. For each one, we cover where the pillow goes, why it helps two bodies line up, what it takes pressure off, and one comfort tip.

Why small adjustments make a big difference, according to a sexologist

"For those of us with knee problems or any other physical problem, we often need to make adjustments in how we get on top, and making those look sexy can be difficult at times, but it's not impossible"

Marla Renee Stewart, a sexologist, sex educator, and founder of Velvet Lips Sex Ed, speaking to Bustle

Note: Plus size sex positions don't start with changing your body!

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1. The Edge-of-Bed Lift

Woman lying on her back on the bed with the WildNightX pillow under her hips while her partner supports her raised legs

The easiest place to start. Nobody holds anybody's weight.

Pillow spot: at the edge of the mattress, under her hips, while she lies back. Her partner stands or kneels on the floor.

Why it helps: the bed and the pillow carry her, and his legs carry him. The 27° lift tilts her hips toward him, so you line up without either of you leaning in hard.

Less pressure on: knees and lower back, for both of you.

Comfort tip: the grip base matters most here. A bed pillow slides off the edge. This one stays put.

2. Knees-Up Missionary, Lifted

Woman lying on her back with her hips raised on the WildNightX pillow and her legs lifted

Face to face, with more room for both of you.

Pillow spot: under her hips and lower back while she lies back.

Why it helps: the lift raises her hips, and drawing her knees in opens up space. Two bodies meet at a better angle, with no squeezing.

Less pressure on: her lower back, which rests on firm foam instead of arching. He can rest on his forearms.

Comfort tip: she sets the angle with her knees. Lower them for less, draw them in for more.

3. Her on Top, Pillow Under Him

The WildNightX pillow on a bed with six position illustrations: 27° support for better angles, easier pleasure and more play

A favorite for women who like to set the pace.

Pillow spot: under his hips while he lies back.

Why it helps: the lift raises him a little, so she doesn't have to crouch low or hold herself up to find the angle.

Less pressure on: her knees and thighs. She can sit back and stay comfortable longer.

Comfort tip: she leans forward and rests her hands on his shoulders or the bed. Small moves, her rhythm.

4. The Side-by-Side Tilt

Side by side position with the WildNightX pillow, illustrated — Side by side on the pillow

Warm, slow, and zero weight on anyone.

Pillow spot: under her hips and waist while you both lie on your sides, him behind her.

Why it helps: the foam tips her hips back slightly, so you line up without anyone lifting or holding a position.

Less pressure on: knees, wrists and shoulders. If lying on your side bothers your back, skip this one.

Comfort tip: she hugs a bed pillow in front of her for extra support.

5. Bed-Edge, Face Down

Woman resting her chest over the WildNightX pillow's 27° slope with her hips raised

No hands and knees, no kneeling on the mattress.

Pillow spot: at the edge of the bed, under her hips, while she lies face down with her feet on the floor. Her partner stands at the bedside.

Why it helps: the 11.8-inch pillow raises her hips toward his standing height, so neither of you has to bend or squat to line up.

Less pressure on: her wrists and knees, and his knees and lower back.

Comfort tip: she rests her arms and head on a folded blanket or a bed pillow on the mattress.

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6. Kneel and Lean

Woman on her knees with her hips lifted over the WildNightX pillow

The kneeling version, with the pillow holding her up.

Pillow spot: under her upper body while she kneels, with the high end facing her.

Why it helps: she leans onto firm foam instead of holding her own weight on her hands. The 60 kg/m³ foam doesn't flatten, so the height stays the same.

Less pressure on: her wrists, arms and shoulders.

Comfort tip: add a folded blanket under her knees and keep the pace easy.

7. The Recliner, She's in Charge

Man reclining against the pillow as a backrest

He's propped up, she's on top. Easy to talk, easy to laugh.

Pillow spot: behind his back, as a firm backrest.

Why it helps: reclining brings his upper body closer to hers, so you're face to face without either of you holding a lift.

Less pressure on: his neck and shoulders, and her knees, since she can lean in against him.

Comfort tip: let her lead. As Marla Renee Stewart told Bustle, "Being on top means being in control of our pleasure and how we move our bodies."

8. Lap Seat With a Backrest

WildNightX pillow size: 60 x 40 x 30 cm, anti-slip bottom, removable cover

The closest one on the list. Wrapped up, eye to eye.

Pillow spot: behind his back as he sits up on the bed.

Why it helps: he leans back on the foam instead of holding himself upright, and she sits in his lap facing him. Sitting gives everyone more room to settle in.

Less pressure on: his lower back, and her knees.

Comfort tip: go slow. This one is about closeness, not effort.

Will the pillow hold us? It's 60 kg/m³ memory foam rated for 260+ lbs, so it keeps its shape where a bed pillow goes flat. And whichever position you try, talk it through. As sex educator Elle Chase told Bustle, "Our partners aren't mind readers and can't really know what we like without us letting them know."

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