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Short answer: The short answer to what are the best sex positions: the ones that fit your two bodies that night, like edge of the bed for a height gap or spooning when you're both tired. The WildNightX Pillow makes each pick easier, because it holds a steady 27° angle.
Short answer: the best sex positions are the ones that fit your two bodies on that night. A tall partner, sore knees, a tired back, a slow mood. Each one changes the answer.
That's why one list rarely works for everyone. Many couples find one position that works and then get stuck there. One Reddit user wrote: “Part of me wishes there was a bit more variety and that other positions could have the same result”.
So we matched 7 positions to 7 common situations. Find yours. Each one uses the WildNightX Pillow, a 27° memory foam wedge that lifts, props or tilts one of you and holds that angle. The position you pick stays easy to keep.
"The best sex is often explorative and adaptable"
The height-gap fix. No stretching, no crouching.
Why it's the pick: he stands on the floor, and the lift brings her hips closer to his height.
Set it up: pillow on the edge of the mattress, under her hips, while she lies back. The grip base keeps it from sliding off.
Skip it if: standing for a while bothers his back. Try #7 instead.
Nothing new to learn. You just add the lift.
Why it's the pick: it's the position you already know, now face to face at a 27° tilt that stays put.
Set it up: pillow under her hips and lower back.
Skip it if: lying flat on her back is uncomfortable for her. #6 keeps you both on your sides.
She sets the pace. The pillow does part of the work.
Why it's the pick: the lift under him changes the angle, so she can find what feels right without working harder.
Set it up: pillow under his hips while he lies back. She sits on top, facing him.
Skip it if: her knees get sore on the mattress. Then try #2. Either way, say what you like. As intimacy coach Elle Chase told Bustle, "Our partners aren't mind readers and can't really know what we like without us letting them know".
Small, slow movements instead of big ones.
Why it's the pick: your bodies stay close the whole time, and the fixed angle keeps you lined up without effort.
Set it up: pillow low under her hips, her legs relaxed. He shifts a little higher than in missionary.
Skip it if: you're in a fast, playful mood. #3 fits that better.
Nobody kneels. Not her, not him.
Why it's the pick: she rests on the bed and the foam, and he stands on the floor. Knees and wrists stay out of it.
Set it up: pillow at the edge of the bed, under her hips and belly, while she lies face down with her feet on the floor.
Skip it if: your bed is too low or too high for a comfortable stand. #6 works on any bed.
Lying down, side by side. Nobody holds anyone up.
Why it's the pick: the foam tilts her hips a little, so the angle is there while you both relax.
Set it up: pillow under her hips and waist while she lies on her side, with him behind her.
Skip it if: lying on your side makes your back ache. Not every back likes it.
Eye to eye, wrapped up together. Made for anniversaries.
Why it's the pick: he leans back against the foam instead of holding himself upright, so his arms are free to hold her.
Set it up: he sits up with the pillow behind his back. She sits in his lap, facing him.
Skip it if: you want something quick. This one is slow and close. And if none of the 7 fit tonight, mix them. As sex therapist Lee Phillips, PhD, told SELF, "It's best to stay flexible and be willing to get creative with what works for you and your partner".
The ones that fit your bodies that night. A tall partner, sore knees, a tired back or a slow mood each changes the answer. So pick by your situation, then let a firm pillow hold the angle.
Try the edge of the bed. She lies back with the pillow under her hips at the edge of the mattress, and he stands on the floor. The lift brings her hips closer to his height.
It depends on the two of you, and it can change from night to night. A good place to start is elevated missionary, at a 27° tilt that stays put. Then say what you like and adjust together.
Try face-down at the edge. She rests on the bed and the pillow with her feet on the floor, and he stands. Nobody kneels, so knees and wrists stay out of it.
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