Sex After 50:
5 Reasons a 27° Pillow Brings Back the Positions You Miss
Written by the Couples Edit
Sex after 50 can still feel amazing. The trick is a position that spares your hips, knees and back, and a pillow that does the lifting your joints used to do.
You know how it goes. The position you used to love now costs a sore knee the next morning. So you quietly stop doing it. Then another one goes. One wedge reviewer said it plainly:
"I really miss certain sexual positions, but my knees are getting old, and there is often a problem with my partner's legs being too long."Wedge pillow review
That's not a sad ending. It's your joints talking, not your desire. And joints do much better with the right support under them.
Here's the good news. The positions were never the problem. The flat bed was. Put a firm 27° pillow under her hips, and the moves you gave up start to feel easy again.
So what really changes when a pillow takes the weight?
5 Reasons Having Sex After 50 Gets Easier With a Pillow
1. Her Hips Rest. Nothing Has to Stretch.
Flat missionary asks her to spread her legs wide and lift her hips. After 50, that's where it starts to hurt. One reviewer put it simply: "our favorite position was wreaking havoc on my hips."
With the pillow, the tall end goes under her hips and the slope runs under her lower back. The foam does the lifting. Her legs stay relaxed. She sits on the low end first, then lies back and scoots up. No lifting her hips off a flat bed. Sex therapist Emily Jamea told Women's Health:
"Historically, sex pillows were primarily marketed toward older folks who had joint issues or bad knees because they made sex positions more comfortable"Emily Jamea, PhD, sex therapist, in Women's Health
"It works great! I love how it put my hips at different angle!"
Sarah H.
And what about his knees?
2. His Knees Stay Off the Mattress.
Move to the edge of the bed. Set the tall end of the pillow at the edge, under her hips. She sits on the edge, then lies back with her feet near the floor. He stands.
No kneeling on a soft bed. No sore knees tomorrow. The lift brings her hips up to him, so he doesn't bend over either. And getting up is just sitting up.
A bed pillow would slide off the edge. This one has a silicone base that grips the sheets.
"We love ours! It doesn't strain my husband's back!"
Fluffy W.
But what if it's a sore back that keeps stopping you?
3. Backs Rest on Firm Foam, Not Thin Air.
If her back is the sore one, the curve of the pillow holds her lower back so it doesn't arch. If his back is the sore one, flip it. Put the pillow behind him, tall end up, like a recliner. He leans back. She climbs on slowly, hands on his shoulders, and sets the pace.
Either way, nobody holds themselves up on tired arms. One Reddit user said their wedge did this:
"it removes all pressure on my hips/back"Shared on Reddit
"We tried it out the day it arrived and it was everything we hoped it would be. It relieved and eliminated any stress on the back for her."
Bob N.
So is it just more comfortable, or does it still feel exciting?
4. It Still Feels Hot. Maybe Hotter Than Before.
When her hips tilt up to 27°, everything lines up. He goes deeper, right where she feels it most. And with nothing aching, she stops guarding a sore hip and just feels it.
Her breath catches. Her legs start to shake. And she's the one who doesn't want to stop.
Desire can change after 50, and a pillow won't change hormones. But when nothing hurts, it's a lot easier to want it.
"My wife felt very comfortable using it… [She] did not experience any pain or discomfort at all."
Faisal A., Verified Buyer
It's firm 60 kg/m³ memory foam, rated for 260+ lbs, so it holds its 27° shape all night. See the 27° pillow that does the lifting →
And on the slow, lazy nights?
5. Side by Side, Slow and Close, Every Joint at Rest.
Lie on your sides, him behind her. She lifts her hip a little, and he slides the pillow under her hips and waist. No getting up and down. Or face each other, with her top leg over his hip.
Nobody kneels. Nobody holds anybody up. Just slow and warm. Rheumatology nurse practitioner Iris Zink said it well: "Comforting yourself with pillows would be fabulous."
Every pillow comes with a FREE Blindfold too. And when the grandkids visit, it just looks like a throw pillow.
"the angle is just right! We use this pillow far more frequently than I expected. We are both very pleased!"
Tricia M.
To Be Fair: Where It Falls Short
No pillow is perfect, and this one isn't either. It comes in one size and one color (gray). The cover is only lightly water-resistant, so lay a towel down on messy nights. The cover goes in the washer, but the foam core doesn't. And the 30-Day Guarantee is shorter than some brands advertise, so read the return policy before you order.
So is it time to get your favorite positions back?
- Easy On Hips And Knees.
- Her Back Rests On Foam.
- Grips The Sheets. No Sliding.
- Looks Like A Throw Pillow.
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What Buyers Are Saying
"Thank you for creating something that brings couples closer and makes their intimate moments even more enjoyable."
"It was a more comfortable position for my wife. No neck strain. Very happy with the purchase."
"Using the pillow makes the angle feel natural and because I'm not moving around, I can concentrate on making the wife feel great and go longer as well."
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Sex After 50: Your Questions
What are the best sex positions for seniors?
The ones where nobody kneels for long or holds their weight up: side by side, edge of the bed with him standing, and missionary with a pillow under her hips. These are also the best sex positions for elderly couples with stiff joints.
Sex after 50: how often is normal?
How often sex after 50 happens is up to the two of you. Researcher Amy Muise said of her study, "it's important to maintain an intimate connection with your partner, but you don't need to have sex everyday as long as you're maintaining that connection."
Is after 50 sex supposed to feel different?
Often, yes. Joints get stiff, and moves that were easy at 30 can hurt now. Having sex after 50 usually means changing the setup, not giving up. A firm pillow takes over the lifting your hips and knees used to do.
What about women's sex drive after 50, or low libido after menopause?
Changes are common, and they don't mean something is wrong with you. Ob/Gyn Salena Zanotti, MD, told Cleveland Clinic, "you don't have to live with low libido. There are options to increase sex drive that can be very effective." Your doctor can walk you through them.
What are the best sex positions for bad back, knees or hips?
Sex positions for bad back: missionary with her hips on the pillow, or him leaning back like a recliner if his back is sore. Sex positions for bad knees: edge of the bed and side by side, where nobody kneels. Sex positions for bad hips: missionary on the pillow, where her legs stay relaxed. Backs differ, so go by feel.
How to make sex less painful?
Go slow, take your time warming up, and pick positions that don't load the sore joint. A pillow takes the strain off hips, back and knees. If sex hurts often, or after a hip or knee surgery, talk to your doctor.
Will anyone know what it is?
Not likely. It looks like a gray throw pillow, and it ships in discreet packaging with no product or store name outside. The linen cover zips off for the washer.
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