What are the best sex positions for height difference?

If he's much taller, try bed-edge with him standing. If she's taller, put the pillow under his hips instead. For any gap on a tired night, try seated face to face or side by side.

What if she's the taller one?

Lift him instead. He lies back with the pillow under his hips, and she's on top, facing him. She doesn't have to fold herself low to meet him, and she sets the pace.

How much lift does the pillow give?

Up to 11.8 inches. The WildNightX Pillow measures 23.6 × 15.7 × 11.8 inches with a fixed 27° slope, which is often the missing piece on a low bed.

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Q: How do you do missionary when he's tall and she's short?

Slide the pillow under her hips and lower back. It lifts her hips and tilts them 27° toward him, so he doesn't have to scrunch down and she doesn't have to stretch up.

Short answer: The best sex positions for height difference lift the lower hips and hold them there, or take legs out of it, like bed-edge with him standing or seated face to face. The WildNightX Pillow adds up to 11.8 inches of lift at a fixed 27°, with a grip base that stays put.

"How to do missionary when he's tall and I'm short?" One Reddit user asked exactly that. Another summed it up in one line: "I'm short 5'1 he's 6'3, so it's been hard."

A big height gap shows up fast in bed. Faces don't line up. Hips don't either. One of you stretches, the other scrunches down, and every new position turns into a workout.

Nothing is wrong with either of you. Your hips are just at two different heights. Lift the lower one, hold it there, and the gap closes. That's the job of the WildNightX Pillow: 11.8 inches tall, a fixed 27° slope, and a silicone grip base that stays put.

Below are 6 positions, ranked for height gaps. For each one: who it's best for, where the pillow goes, how it closes the gap, and what to change when she's the taller one.

What matters most with a height gap, according to a sex therapist

"When couples have height differences, the most important things to keep in mind are comfort, communication, flexibility, and support"

Janet Brito, PhD, a sex therapist in Honolulu, speaking to Women's Health

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1. Hips-Level Missionary

Woman lying on her back with her hips raised on the WildNightX pillow and her legs lifted

A position couples with a height gap ask about a lot. Face to face, finally lined up.

Best for: when he's taller and you want to stay close.

Pillow spot: under her hips and lower back while she lies back.

How it closes the gap: the pillow lifts her hips and tilts them 27° toward him, so he doesn't have to scrunch down and she doesn't have to stretch up. As sexologist Jessica O'Reilly, PhD, told Women's Health, "Height differences may mean that positions that require specific alignment may require more props and creativity."

If she's taller: she slides down the bed until your hips meet, then lies back on the pillow.

2. Bed-Edge, He Stands

Woman lying on her back with her hips on the WildNightX pillow while her partner holds her legs up

The classic fix for a big gap.

Best for: when he's a lot taller, or when kneeling on the bed is hard on his knees.

Pillow spot: at the edge of the mattress, under her hips, while she lies back. He stands on the floor.

How it closes the gap: the bed and the pillow set her height, and his legs set his. The pillow adds up to 11.8 inches of lift, which is often the missing piece on a low bed. The grip base keeps it from sliding off the edge.

If she's taller: it still works, because lying down takes her height out of it. He bends his knees or widens his stance to fine-tune.

3. Face-Down Lift

Woman on her knees with her hips lifted over the WildNightX pillow

She doesn't kneel, and he doesn't squat.

Best for: when he's taller and kneeling puts his hips well above hers.

Pillow spot: under her hips and belly while she lies face down. He kneels on the bed.

How it closes the gap: the pillow raises her hips toward his kneeling height, so he doesn't have to spread his knees wide or crouch low. She rests on the foam, so her wrists get a break too.

If she's taller: turn the pillow so its low end sits under her hips. Less lift, same support.

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4. Seated Face-to-Face

The WildNightX pillow on a bed with six position illustrations: 27° support for better angles, easier pleasure and more play

Sitting makes most of a height gap simply disappear.

Best for: any height gap, big or small, and slow nights.

Pillow spot: behind his back as he sits up on the bed. She sits in his lap facing him.

How it closes the gap: much of a height gap is leg length, and sitting takes the legs out of it. The backrest keeps him comfortable, and your eyes end up level. Janet Brito, PhD, told Women's Health that height-gap fixes can mean "adjusting angles, using props like pillows or wedges".

If she's taller: swap places. She leans back on the pillow, and he sits facing her.

5. Side by Side, Lined Up

Side by side position with the WildNightX pillow, illustrated — Side by side on the pillow

Lying down, height matters a lot less.

Best for: tired nights and lazy mornings, with any gap.

Pillow spot: under her hips and waist while you both lie on your sides, him behind her.

How it closes the gap: he shifts lower on the bed until your hips line up, and the foam tips her hips back slightly, so nobody has to stretch or hold a position. If lying on your side bothers your back, skip this one.

If she's taller: she scoots down the bed instead, until your hips meet.

6. Lift Him Instead

Why the WildNightX pillow works: 27° precision angle, eases hip and back tension, high-rebound support foam, washable cover

When she's the taller one, flip the whole idea.

Best for: taller women with shorter partners.

Pillow spot: under his hips while he lies back. She's on top, facing him.

How it closes the gap: the lift raises his hips toward her, so she doesn't have to fold herself low to meet him. She sets the pace, and her knees and thighs work less.

If he's taller: move the pillow behind his back as a backrest, so he sits up a little and you meet face to face.

Where to start tonight: if he's much taller, try #2. If she's taller, try #6. For any gap on a tired night, go with #4 or #5. Then talk about what felt best, and keep that one.

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6 Best Sex Positions for Height Difference, Leveled Out With One Pillow. Here's How 11.8 Inches of Lift Closes the Gap…

Note: Sex positions for height difference? Read this BEFORE giving up!

1. Hips-Level Missionary

2. Bed-Edge, He Stands

3. Face-Down Lift

4. Seated Face-to-Face

5. Side by Side, Lined Up

6. Lift Him Instead

Where to start tonight: if he's much taller, try #2. If she's taller, try #6. For any gap on a tired night, go with #4 or #5. Then talk about what felt best, and keep that one.

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