Oral Sex Positions for Women:
5 Reasons She Finally Lets Go on a 27° Pillow
Written by the Couples Edit
The best oral sex positions for women hold her whole body up and let her set the pace. When she stops holding herself up, she can finally let go.
You know the moment. She's into it. Then the thoughts start. Is his neck tired? Is this taking too long? Part of her is still on duty.
One reviewer wrote about a foam wedge:
"not focusing on straining to prop myself or stay in position allowed me to focus on my pleasure much more"From a review of a foam wedge
Another reviewer said this after trying a sex pillow:
"I didn't realize how much strain I was putting on myself"From a review of a sex pillow
Here's the good news. Nothing is wrong with her, and it's not all in her head. A lot of it is her body. Flat on a soft bed or up on her elbows, she's holding a pose. It's hard to let go while you're holding on.
So which positions let her switch off, and what does a pillow change?
5 Reasons the Best Oral Sex Positions for Women Start With a Pillow
1. She Leans Back Like It's Her Favorite Chair.
Where the pillow goes: behind her back, tall end at her shoulders, her head on the small head pillow. Back, neck and head all rest. Nothing to hold.
She can see him, so a look or a hand on his shoulder says slower, faster or stay. He starts slow, with kisses everywhere else first.
Then it happens. Her shoulders drop. Her breath gets slow and deep. She stops thinking and starts feeling. Don't stop. I'm not in a hurry.
"My wife felt very comfortable using it. In fact, she became even more excited and enjoyed the experience more than we expected."
Faisal A., Verified Buyer
But won't she still worry about his neck?
2. Her Hips Come Up, So His Neck Rests and She Stops Worrying.
Where the pillow goes: under her hips and lower back, with a regular pillow under her head. Her knees bend and her feet rest flat.
The lift brings her to an easy height, so his neck stays relaxed. He can take his time. One reviewer wrote about a foam wedge:
"I like to give her oral for awhile and now I can without my neck getting sore."From a review of a foam wedge
When she knows he's comfy, she stops checking on him. And the angle helps, too. Sexologist Jess O'Reilly, PhD, told Women's Health:
"You might discover new ways to access your lover's hottest spots during oral simply by propping their hips up on a sex pillow"Jess O'Reilly, PhD, sexologist, in Women's Health
"It was a more comfortable position for my wife. No neck strain. Very happy with the purchase."
Bob N.
And on nights she just wants to melt into the bed?
3. Face Down, Hips Lifted. She Melts. He Takes His Time.
Where the pillow goes: under her hips and lower belly. Her chest and arms rest on the bed, cheek on her folded arms. He kneels behind her.
Start with his hands on her back. Slow. Warm. Then lower. The 27° lift brings her to an easy height, and the silicone base keeps the pillow from sliding on the sheets.
She can tilt her hips up or sink back down, a little at a time, until it feels just right. Then her legs start to shake.
"It works great! I love how it put my hips at different angle!"
Sarah H.
And when her mind still won't go quiet?
4. Cover Her Eyes. The Thinking Stops.
Set her up like #1, pillow behind her back. Then she puts on the FREE Blindfold that comes with every pillow.
Now she can't watch the clock or wonder how she looks. Every touch feels bigger. She sets the pace with her hands and her voice, and she can slide the Blindfold off any time. Sex educator Felice Lopez told Bustle:
"Wedges are a great aid in the bedroom because they help people maintain a position without expending energy that would be better placed elsewhere"Felice Lopez, sex educator, in Bustle
"the angle is just right! We use this pillow far more frequently than I expected. We are both very pleased!"
Tricia M.
And when she's ready for more?
5. When She Wants More, Nothing Needs Fixing.
The pillow stays right where it was in #2, under her hips. She pulls him up when she's ready. No stopping to stack pillows. No losing the mood. Come up here.
The firm 60 kg/m³ foam doesn't sink, and it's rated for 260+ lbs. The linen cover is lightly water-resistant (not waterproof) and zips off for the washer, so she doesn't have to think about the sheets either. See the 27° pillow that holds her up →
"[This pillow] is a game changer, and a welcomed addition to the bedroom it's not cheaply made and actually supports your body"
J.R. E.
To Be Fair: Where It Falls Short
No pillow is perfect, and this one isn't either. It comes in one size and one color (gray). The cover is only lightly water-resistant, so lay a towel down on messy nights. The cover goes in the washer, but the foam core doesn't. And the 30-Day Guarantee is shorter than some brands advertise, so read the return policy before you order.
So which of these oral sex positions for her comes first tonight?
Try #1, with no plan and no clock. The pillow holds her. All she has to do is lean back.
- Holds Her Up. She Lets Go.
- His Neck Gets A Break.
- Grips The Sheets. No Sliding.
- Looks Like A Throw Pillow.
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Oral Sex for Women: Positions and Questions
What is the best oral sex position for women?
The ones where her body is fully held: #1, leaning back on the pillow, or #2, hips raised with knees bent. A firm 27° pillow holds her, so she can stop holding herself up and relax.
How can she relax during oral?
Get comfy first: back and head held, the room warm, no clock. Agree on simple words like slower or stay. Many women find it easier with their eyes closed or a blindfold on. And say what you like. As intimacy coach Elle Chase told Bustle: "Our partners aren't mind readers and can't really know what we like without us letting them know."
How to give better oral?
Slow down, start with everything else first, and make sure you're both comfy. When she's propped at 27°, your neck stays relaxed, so you can take your time. Follow her pace, not yours.
Which different oral sex positions are good for beginners?
Good positions for oral sex to start with are #1 and #2. Both are easy to set up, and she stays fully held. Then try #4 with the free Blindfold.
Are female oral sex positions easier with a pillow?
For most couples, yes. On a flat bed, she braces and he bends low. With her hips up at 27°, nobody strains, so you both can stay in it longer.
What if things get wet?
The linen cover is lightly water-resistant, not waterproof. Lay a towel over it if you like, then zip the cover off and wash it. The foam inside stays out of the wash.
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