Sex Positions for Big People:
5 Reasons a Firm 27° Pillow Changes Everything
Written by the Couples Edit
The best sex positions for big people let a pillow do the lifting. Nobody folds over, nobody holds their weight up, and the angle comes easy.
If you're here, you know the real problems. Bellies meet before anything lines up. Knees sink into a soft bed. Someone gets out of breath halfway and starts to feel shy. One Reddit user put it plainly:
"I'm a size 26, very bottom heavy with a larger belly and I'm short. My partner is very tall (a little over a foot taller than me) and slightly chunky."Shared on Reddit
Then comes the next worry. Will a pillow even hold us? Another Reddit user asked it straight:
"I've been thinking of a wedge but am afraid because I'm over 250lbs"Shared on Reddit
Here's the good news. Your body was never the problem. The angle was. Bring her hips up to meet him, and the gap closes on its own. No diet. No gym. Just the right lift.
So what can one firm pillow really change?
5 Reasons These Sex Positions for Plus Size Couples Work on a Pillow
1. It Holds Real Weight. It Doesn't Go Flat.
Bed pillows are made for sleep. Put real weight on them and they squash flat in a minute. That's why so many people are "worried about them collapsing under our weight."
The WildNightX Pillow is firm 60 kg/m³ memory foam, rated for 260+ lbs. It holds its 27° shape from start to finish. So you stop testing the pillow and start enjoying each other.
"My Spouse and I are Both Obese (BMI= 33) and have had difficulty in most intimate 'Connections'; but ever since we use the [pillow], our Sessions are a more Comfortable!"
Brad B.
But does a lift really fix the belly gap?
2. Her Hips Come Up to Him. The Gap Closes.
In flat missionary, bellies meet first. He has to lean his whole weight forward, and nothing lines up.
Put the tall end of the pillow under her hips. Let her legs rest on his shoulders or against his chest. Now he kneels upright, his weight stays on his own knees, and her hips are right where he needs them.
He goes deeper. She feels it more. Her back stays relaxed, and her legs start to shake. This is one of the plus size sex positions couples come back to again and again.
"It works great! I love how it put my hips at different angle!"
Sarah H.
And what about his knees on a soft bed?
3. He Stands. Her Back and His Knees Get a Break.
Move to the edge of the bed. Set the tall end of the pillow at the edge, under her hips. She lies back with her feet near the floor. He stands.
Standing, he has room to move and his knees stay off the mattress. The pillow brings her hips to him, so he doesn't bend over. She lies back and just enjoys it.
A bed pillow would slide right off the edge. This one has a silicone base that grips the sheets. Want it from behind? She kneels at the edge with her hips and belly on the pillow, and it's pillow doggy with him on his feet.
"We love ours! It doesn't strain my husband's back!"
Fluffy W.
What if he's the bigger one, and lying flat isn't comfy for him?
4. He Leans Back Like a Recliner. She Takes Control.
Put the pillow behind his back, tall end up, like a recliner. He's propped up and relaxed. She climbs on top, facing him, and she doesn't have to stretch to reach him.
She sets the pace. She leans onto his chest when she wants a rest. Sexologist Marla Renee Stewart told Bustle:
"Being on top means being in control of our pleasure and how we move our bodies"Marla Renee Stewart, sexologist, in Bustle
"[This pillow] is a game changer, and a welcomed addition to the bedroom it's not cheaply made and actually supports your body"
J.R. E.
And on the nights you're both tired?
5. Side by Side, Nobody Gets Out of Breath.
Lie on your sides, him behind her, with the pillow under her hips and waist. Or face each other, with her top leg over his hip. The lift raises her hips, so you meet without anyone reaching.
Nobody carries anybody's weight. Small, slow moves. Close and warm. Of all the plus sized sex positions, this one asks the least of anyone.
And talk. Intimacy coach Elle Chase told Bustle that "Our partners aren't mind readers." Tell each other what feels good. Every pillow also comes with a FREE Blindfold for the nights you want to play.
"It was a more comfortable position for my wife. No neck strain. Very happy with the purchase."
Bob N.
To Be Fair: Where It Falls Short
No pillow is perfect, and this one isn't either. It comes in one size and one color (gray). The cover is only lightly water-resistant, so lay a towel down on messy nights. The cover goes in the washer, but the foam core doesn't. And the 30-Day Guarantee is shorter than some brands advertise, so read the return policy before you order.
So is a pillow built for real bodies worth it?
- Rated For 260+ lbs.
- Firm Foam. Doesn't Go Flat.
- Her Hips Up. The Gap Closes.
- Grips The Sheets. No Sliding.
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"My wife felt very comfortable using it. In fact, she became even more excited and enjoyed the experience more than we expected."
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"the angle is just right! We use this pillow far more frequently than I expected. We are both very pleased!"
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Sex Positions for Big People: Your Questions
What are the best sex positions for big people?
The ones where nobody holds their weight up or folds over: edge of the bed with him standing, him propped up like a recliner, and side by side. A firm 27° pillow under her hips brings your bodies together, so the angle comes easy.
What are the best sex positions for plus size women?
Positions where her hips are lifted and her back rests: missionary with her hips on the pillow, edge of the bed, and lying back with her knees bent. For sex positions for plus size bodies, the angle matters more than how bendy you are. That's true of most plus size women sex positions.
How to make love to a big woman?
Slow down, ask what feels good, and bring her hips up to you instead of folding over her. Start with the pillow under her hips, then follow her lead. These are the sex positions plus size women often like best.
What if he has a big belly?
Pick positions where he stays upright or leans back: standing at the edge, kneeling upright with her legs up, or the recliner. The lift brings her hips to him, so he doesn't have to lean his weight forward.
Sex positions and obesity: what helps most?
Support and angle, not gymnastics. Side by side asks the least of anyone's breath and joints. These are also the easiest sex positions for chubby couples, and a firm wedge keeps the angle so you don't have to hold it.
Is there an intimacy pillow plus size couples can trust?
Yes, if it's firm and rated for real weight. Look for dense foam and a weight rating. The WildNightX Pillow is 60 kg/m³ memory foam rated for 260+ lbs.
Can we wash it?
Yes. The linen cover zips off and goes in the washer. It ships in discreet packaging with no product or store name outside.
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