What is the best position to have sex?

Elevated missionary is the easiest place to start. You stay face to face, with the pillow under her hips and lower back. The 27° slope does the lifting, so nobody has to hold the angle by effort.

What are the best sex positions for sore knees or wrists?

Pick ones where nobody kneels or holds their own weight. In the lazy face-down version, she rests on the bed and the foam. At the edge of the bed, he stands, so his knees get a break.

Can I use a regular bed pillow instead of a wedge?

You can try, but a folded bed pillow squashes flat and slides the moment you move. The WildNightX Pillow uses firm 60 kg/m³ memory foam and a silicone grip base, so the angle stays put.

What sex position feels best for women?

It depends on her body and the night. If she likes to set the pace, try recliner cowgirl: she is on top while he leans back against the pillow. Go slow, talk, and keep the one she likes best.

The 10 Best Sex Positions With a Pillow, Ranked by How Much Easier They Get. Here's Where the Pillow Goes for Each One…

Short answer: The best sex positions are the ones you can both hold without strain, and a firm wedge makes most of them easier. Start with elevated missionary on the WildNightX Pillow, a 27° memory foam wedge with a silicone grip base that keeps the angle steady from start to finish.

Most lists of the best sex positions skip one thing: support. You try something new, it feels awkward, someone's back or knees start to complain, and you both drift back to the usual two.

The fix is often simple. Change the angle, then hold it. That's why every position below uses one firm wedge: the WildNightX Pillow, a 27° memory foam pillow with a silicone grip base that keeps the angle steady from start to finish.

A folded bed pillow can't do the same job. It squashes flat and slides the moment you move. So for each position, we cover where the pillow goes, what it supports, who it suits, and one angle tip.

Why a wedge opens up new positions, according to a sex coach

"A wedge under the hips can make sex more enjoyable for people with different degrees of mobility, and sometimes it makes new positions possible"

Stella Harris, sex coach and author of Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships, speaking to Bustle

Note: Read this BEFORE you try the best sex positions without support!

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1. Elevated Missionary

Woman lying on her back with her hips on the WildNightX pillow while her partner holds her legs up

The classic, made easier. Face to face, close, and simple. This is the best first position to try.

Where the pillow goes: under her hips and lower back.

What it supports: her lower back rests on firm foam instead of arching, so nobody has to hold the lift by effort.

Who it suits: couples who want closeness and an easy start.

Angle tip: let the 27° slope do the lifting. As Boston sex educator Felice Lopez told Bustle, "Wedges are a great aid in the bedroom because they help people maintain a position without expending energy that would be better placed elsewhere."

2. Raised-Knee Missionary

Woman lying on her back on the bed with the WildNightX pillow under her hips while her partner supports her raised legs

Same pillow, same spot, with one small change for a steeper tilt.

Where the pillow goes: under her hips, just like #1.

What it supports: she bends her knees and draws them in. The foam keeps her hips raised, so her legs and lower back don't have to.

Who it suits: couples who like #1 and want a little more angle.

Angle tip: she sets the tilt with her knees. Lower them for less, draw them in for more. Go slow and talk.

3. Coital Alignment, Pillow Version

Woman lying on her back with her hips raised on the WildNightX pillow and her legs lifted

A small shift from #1 that turns big movements into slow, steady ones.

Where the pillow goes: under her hips, the same as #1.

What it supports: he shifts slightly higher so you stay closely aligned. The fixed 27° keeps her hips at one height, so the alignment doesn't drift.

Who it suits: couples who prefer slow and steady over fast, and longer nights.

Angle tip: small rocking movements, steady rhythm. The pillow holds the angle, so neither of you has to.

4. Lazy Doggy, Lying Flat

Woman kneeling on the bed with her hips lifted over the WildNightX pillow and her chest resting low

A low-effort take on a favorite. No hands and knees needed.

Where the pillow goes: under her hips and belly while she lies face down.

What it supports: she rests fully on the bed and the foam, so her wrists and knees get a break.

Who it suits: anyone with sore knees or wrists, and couples who like this angle but not the effort.

Angle tip: center the pillow under her hips. The grip base keeps it from sliding as you both move.

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5. Supported Doggy, Kneeling

A woman kneeling over the WildNightX Pillow while her partner holds her hips from behind

The kneeling version, with the pillow doing the heavy lifting up front.

Where the pillow goes: under her upper body while she kneels.

What it supports: she leans forward onto the foam instead of holding herself up, which takes the strain off her arms and shoulders.

Who it suits: couples who love this position but find it tiring after a few minutes. Sexologist Jess O'Reilly, PhD, told Women's Health that "you might find that the angle of doggy style is more comfortable for longer periods of time when you have the support of a sex pillow."

Angle tip: add a folded blanket under her knees for extra comfort.

6. Edge of the Bed

Edge of the bed position with the WildNightX pillow, illustrated — Edge of the bed on the pillow

Great when one partner is taller, or when kneeling on the bed hurts.

Where the pillow goes: on the edge of the mattress, under her hips, while she lies back.

What it supports: he stands, so his knees get a break. The lift brings her hips closer to his height.

Who it suits: couples with a height difference, and anyone whose knees don't like kneeling.

Angle tip: this is where the silicone grip base matters most. A bed pillow slides off the edge. This one stays put.

7. Recliner Cowgirl

Man reclining against the pillow as a backrest

She's on top, he's propped up. Easy to kiss, easy to talk.

Where the pillow goes: behind his back, as a firm backrest.

What it supports: the contoured foam props him up like a recliner, so there's no strain on his neck or shoulders.

Who it suits: couples where she likes to set the pace.

Angle tip: he sits back against the foam and keeps both hands free to hold her close.

8. Reverse Cowgirl, Hips Raised

Reverse cowgirl position with the WildNightX pillow, illustrated — Reverse cowgirl on the pillow

Same idea, turned around. A new angle with almost no extra effort.

Where the pillow goes: under his hips while he lies back.

What it supports: the lift raises his hips a little, which changes the angle without either of you working harder.

Who it suits: couples who want variety on tired nights.

Angle tip: she leans forward slowly to find the angle she likes best, then stays there.

9. Spooning With a Tilt

Side by side position with the WildNightX pillow, illustrated — Side by side on the pillow

Slow, warm, and side by side.

Where the pillow goes: under her hips and waist while you both lie on your sides.

What it supports: the foam tips her hips back slightly, so the angle lines up without anyone holding a position.

Who it suits: lazy mornings and tired nights. Not every back likes lying on its side, so skip this one if it aches.

Angle tip: keep the pillow centered under her hips and the rhythm gentle.

10. Seated Lotus With a Backrest

The closest position on the list. Face to face, wrapped up together.

Where the pillow goes: behind his back as he sits up on the bed.

What it supports: he leans back against the foam instead of holding himself upright, while she sits in his lap facing him.

Who it suits: couples who want slow, eye-to-eye time. A sweet one for anniversaries.

Angle tip: keep it slow. This one is about closeness, not speed.

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