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Short answer: The best lazy sex positions let the tired one lie still while the other one does the work, and let a pillow hold the angle. The laziest: a tilted spoon when she's tired, recliner cowgirl when he is, side by side when you both are. All 8, and where the pillow goes:
I want to. I'm just so tired.
You've both had that night. One of you is wiped out after a long shift, or a night up with the baby. The other one is in the mood. It ends with a rain check. Again.
One Reddit user said she was sick of sex "being a wholeass work session because it never happens smoothly." Fair. When you're exhausted, holding yourself up on your arms or knees is the last thing you want.
Now compare that to what one wedge owner wrote in a review: "I don't have to work so hard and we can both just be more relaxed and engaged with each other."
Lazy sex isn't bad sex. It's sex that fits the night you actually had. So here are 8 lazy sex positions, labeled her lazy, his lazy or both lazy. For each: who rests, who works, where the pillow goes, and an effort score for each of you.
Every one uses the WildNightX Pillow, a 27° memory foam wedge that holds the angle, so nobody has to.
"Think of them as furniture for your sex life. They hold a position for you so you don't have to burn a hundred calories just staying propped up on your elbows."
Her lazy. Our pick for the laziest position on the list. She doesn't even have to open her eyes.
Who rests: her. She lies on her side.
Who works: him, slowly, from behind.
Where the pillow goes: under her hip and waist, so her hips tilt without her doing anything.
Effort: her 1 of 5 · him 2 of 5.
Tip: keep it slow and close. His free arm wraps around her.
Her lazy. She lies flat. Her whole body rests on the bed and the foam.
Who rests: her, face down, head on her arms.
Who works: him, kneeling behind her.
Where the pillow goes: under her hips and belly.
Effort: her 1 of 5 · him 3 of 5.
Tip: the grip base stops the pillow from creeping up the bed, so nobody has to stop and fix it.
Her lazy. She lies back, arms up over her head, fully off duty.
Who rests: her.
Who works: him, resting on his forearms.
Where the pillow goes: under her hips and lower back.
Effort: her 1 of 5 · him 3 of 5.
Tip: the lift brings her to him, so his arms don't have to hold her hips up.
Her lazy. The laziest one for her. All she does is relax.
Who rests: her, lying back with her knees bent.
Who works: him. The lift brings her to a comfortable height, so his neck doesn't tire.
Where the pillow goes: under her hips.
Effort: her 0 of 5 · him 2 of 5.
Tip: if she wants more later, slide into #3. The pillow is already in place.
His lazy. He's propped up like he's in a recliner. She's on top and in charge.
Who rests: him, leaning back on the slope.
Who works: her, at her own pace.
Where the pillow goes: behind his back, tall end up.
Effort: him 1 of 5 · her 3 of 5.
Tip: she can lean onto his chest to rest any time. Sex educator Felice Lopez told Bustle, "Wedges are a great aid in the bedroom because they help people maintain a position without expending energy that would be better placed elsewhere."
His lazy. He lies flat. The pillow sets the angle for him.
Who rests: him, on his back.
Who works: her, on top, facing away.
Where the pillow goes: under his hips.
Effort: him 1 of 5 · her 3 of 5.
Tip: she steadies herself with her hands on his knees and leans forward until it feels right.
His lazy. He sits back like it's a throne. She sits in his lap.
Who rests: him, sitting up against the foam.
Who works: her, slowly, face to face.
Where the pillow goes: behind his back, tall end up.
Effort: him 1 of 5 · her 2 of 5.
Tip: his arms are free, so he holds her close while she sets the pace.
Both lazy. For the nights you're both done. The slowest one on the list.
Who rests: both of you, lying on your sides, face to face.
Who works: nobody, really. Small, slow moves.
Where the pillow goes: under her hip, so her hips tilt toward him.
Effort: her 2 of 5 · him 2 of 5.
Tip: it's fine if this one turns into falling asleep together. That still counts.
For her, the tilted spoon (#1) or elevated oral (#4). For him, reverse cowgirl with the pillow under his hips (#6). Low effort sex positions all have one thing in common: the tired one lies down, and the pillow holds the angle.
Recliner cowgirl (#5), reverse cowgirl with his hips raised (#6) or the seated throne (#7). He leans back or lies flat, and she sets the pace.
That's normal. Sex therapist Dr. Stephen Snyder wrote in TODAY: "Desire ordinarily comes and goes in a long-term relationship so if you wait to feel desire before having sex, you might end up waiting a long time." A lazy position makes yes easier for the tired one. And no is always fine too.
Yes. Cheap wedges are the problem there. One Reddit user wrote about a budget wedge: "Not firm enough. It sinks too much when one us is on it." The WildNightX Pillow is 60 kg/m³ memory foam rated for 260+ lbs, so it keeps its 27° shape, and the silicone grip base holds it on the sheets.
Yes. Many of the best sex positions for beginners are lazy ones, because nobody has to balance. If you're looking for the best sex positions for a beginner, start with #3 and #5. Fun easy sex positions, zero balancing.
Side-by-side on the wedge (#8) and the lazy spoon (#1). They're fun and easy sex positions to try on the nights you'd usually skip.
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