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Short answer: The speed bump sex position is simple: she lies face down with a pillow under her hips, like a bump in the road, and he lies over her or kneels behind her. She rests the whole time. A firm 27° wedge makes the best bump because it doesn't squash flat. Put her hips on the tall end, with the slope running down under her belly. 6 ways to do it:
As sex on bed positions go, the speed bump is one of the easiest. She lies face down with a pillow under her hips. He lies over her, or kneels behind her. That's it.
The problem is the pillow. Sex with pillows usually means a folded bed pillow, and it works for a minute or two. Then it squashes. One person put it simply: "I tried a regular pillow, but it just smooshed too flat." Another said that with regular pillows, "it's either still misaligned or becomes uncomfortable."
All most couples want is something to "make things a little easier." That's exactly what a wedge does here.
Below are 6 ways to do the speed bump. For each: where the pillow goes and which way it faces, how she rests, what he does, and one tip.
Every one uses the WildNightX Pillow, a 27° memory foam wedge with a silicone grip base.
"you might find that the angle of doggy style is more comfortable for longer periods of time when you have the support of a sex pillow"
The original sex pillow position. She lies flat and does nothing but relax.
Where the pillow goes: under her hips and belly.
Which way it faces: tall end under her hips, the slope running down under her belly toward her chest. Her chest and arms rest on the bed.
How she rests: face down, head on her arms, legs straight.
What he does: lies over her on his forearms, or kneels behind her.
Tip: start with a back rub. She's already lying there.
The cozy version. Her legs stay together and straight.
Where the pillow goes: same as #1, tall end under her hips.
How she rests: legs together, completely still. Nothing to hold.
What he does: kneels with one knee on each side of her legs.
Tip: he keeps his weight on his knees and forearms, not on her back.
Arms and legs relaxed and open, like a starfish. Some call it the starfish sexual position. This is the version for more depth.
Where the pillow goes: same as #1.
How she rests: legs apart and loose, arms up by her head.
What he does: kneels behind her.
Tip: on a firm mattress, a folded blanket under his knees.
Want more lift? Don't add more pillows. Slide back.
Which way it faces: if the tall end is under her chest, turn the wedge around. Then she slides back until her hips rest right on top of the tall end.
How she rests: chest low on the slope, knees on the bed if she likes.
What he does: kneels behind her. As sex educator Kenneth Play told Men's Health, "Changing the angle of one person's pelvis makes a big difference."
Tip: for a gentler version, she slides forward so her hips rest on the middle of the slope.
Because she's resting on the foam, nobody needs their hands to hold anything up.
Where the pillow goes: same as #1.
How she rests: fully on the bed and the foam. Add the free Blindfold if she likes.
What he does: keeps his weight on his knees, so his hands are free: a back rub, holding her hands, or wherever she guides them.
Tip: the lift leaves a little room under her hips. Her hand fits there too.
The slowest, closest one. He lies fully over her back, chest to back.
Where the pillow goes: same as #1.
How she rests: flat, and she can rock her hips gently against the slope.
What he does: rests on his forearms, stays close, and keeps the moves small and slow.
Tip: to switch to pillow doggy, she draws her knees up under her and lets her chest rest down the slope. The pillow doesn't move. One wedge, now a doggy style pillow too.
She lies face down with a pillow under her hips, and he lies over her or kneels behind her. The pillow is the "bump." It's a calm sex pose on bed where she rests the whole time.
Under her hips and belly, with the tall end under her hips and the slope running down toward her chest. Her chest and arms rest on the bed.
For more: legs apart (#3), or slide back so her hips sit on top of the tall end (#4). For gentler: legs together (#2), or slide forward to the middle of the slope.
Often, yes. She doesn't hold herself up at all, and the lift tilts her hips to a new angle. One Reddit user said lying flat on her front was the only thing that gave her the angle she wanted.
Pillow doggy (kneeling, chest down the slope), elevated missionary and recliner cowgirl. Most sex wedge pillow positions follow one rule: her hips near the top of the slope.
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