What are the best sex positions for women?

The ones her body can relax into. Propped-up missionary, the lower-back lift and the belly-down rest all let the pillow hold the angle, so her back, arms and legs don't have to.

What sex position do women like best?

Many women like positions where they set the pace, like being on top while he reclines against the pillow. She decides the speed and the angle. Every woman is different, so ask her and listen.

Which position is easiest on her lower back?

The lower-back lift. The pillow goes under her hips and lower back, so she doesn't arch or push up from her heels. The firm foam holds the lift, and her back can relax.

What if her legs get tired on top?

Put the pillow under his hips. The lift raises him to meet her, so she doesn't have to hover or squat. She can lean forward onto his chest and rest any time.

The 8 Best Sex Positions for Women Are the Ones Her Body Can Relax Into. Here's How One Pillow Makes Each One Easier…

Short answer: The best sex positions for women are the ones her body can relax into, where she isn't holding a lift, an arch or her own weight. The WildNightX Pillow is our pick for each one: a firm 27° wedge that keeps its shape and stays put, so she stays comfortable and in charge.

Most lists of the best sex positions for women read like a workout. Hold this. Lift that. Arch here. Then real life happens. Her lower back aches, her legs get tired, and the night ends with the same one or two positions as always.

One Reddit user put it plainly: "When we have sex it's usually us in missionary, then we try other positions and fail then just go back to missionary."

Here's what those lists miss. A position works better for her when her body doesn't have to work to hold it. So every pick below uses one firm support: the WildNightX Pillow, a 27° memory foam wedge with a silicone grip base. A folded bed pillow squashes flat and slides. This one keeps its shape and stays put.

For each position, we cover where the pillow goes, what it saves her, and what she stays in charge of.

Where better nights start, according to an intimacy coach

"Our partners aren't mind readers and can't really know what we like without us letting them know"

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Note: The best sex positions for women shouldn't leave her back sore!

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1. He Reclines, She Sets the Pace

Man reclining against the pillow as a backrest

She's on top, and he's propped up against the pillow. She leads, and nobody strains.

Pillow spot: behind his back, tall end up, like the back of a recliner.

What it saves her: he's half sitting up, so she can lean into him instead of holding herself upright. Her arms and thighs get a break.

Why women like it: she decides everything. As sexologist Marla Renee Stewart told Bustle, "Being on top means being in control of our pleasure and how we move our bodies."

She stays in charge of: the pace and the angle. Leaning forward or sitting tall changes the tilt in a second.

2. Propped-Up Missionary

Missionary position with the WildNightX pillow, illustrated — Missionary on the pillow

Face to face, but she's not flat on her back. She can see him, talk to him and kiss him without lifting her head.

Pillow spot: behind her upper back, tall end toward the headboard, so she reclines at an easy slant.

What it saves her: no neck crunch and no propping up on her elbows.

Why women like it: it keeps things close and face to face. She's part of every moment, not staring at the ceiling.

She stays in charge of: how upright she sits. Scoot down the slope to lie back more. Slide up to sit taller.

3. The Lower-Back Lift

Woman lying on her back with her hips raised on the WildNightX pillow and her legs lifted

The classic she already knows, with her lower back finally supported.

Pillow spot: under her hips and lower back.

What it saves her: no arching and no pushing up from her heels. The foam holds the lift, so her back can relax.

Why women like it: it's familiar, close and easy. A great first one to try.

She stays in charge of: where she rests on the slope. A little higher or lower changes the angle, and the grip base holds it there.

4. Close and Slow, Legs Together

Woman lying on her back with her hips on the WildNightX pillow while her partner holds her legs up

A quieter take on #3. Slow, close and steady.

Pillow spot: under her hips, same as #3, with her legs stretched out straight.

What it saves her: her legs rest flat on the bed. Nothing to hold and nothing to brace.

Why women like it: it's gentle and unhurried. Good for long, slow nights.

She stays in charge of: the rhythm. If something feels off, she says so, and you adjust together.

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5. Face to Face, Side by Side

Side by side position with the WildNightX pillow, illustrated — Side by side on the pillow

Lying on your sides, facing each other. The coziest one on this list.

Pillow spot: under her hips and waist while she lies on her side.

What it saves her: no weight on her arms or knees at all. The tilt does the lining up.

Why women like it: tired nights, lazy mornings, and talking the whole time.

She stays in charge of: how close you are. Not every back likes lying on its side, so if hers aches, switch back to #3.

6. The Belly-Down Rest

Woman lying face down across the WildNightX pillow with its small bolster under her hips

Lying face down, fully supported. No hands and knees, no sore wrists.

Pillow spot: under her hips and belly.

What it saves her: her whole body rests on the bed and the foam. Her wrists, knees and shoulders get a break.

Why women like it: she can relax completely, even turn her head and rest her cheek on her arms.

She stays in charge of: the lift. Sliding a little forward or back on the slope changes the angle.

7. On Top, With His Hips Lifted

Why the WildNightX pillow works: 27° precision angle, eases hip and back tension, high-rebound support foam, washable cover

Another way to be on top, with the pillow under him this time.

Pillow spot: under his hips while he lies back.

What it saves her: the lift raises him to meet her, so she doesn't have to hover or squat. Her thighs will thank her.

Why women like it: it's an easy way to be on top on nights her legs are tired.

She stays in charge of: everything. She can lean forward onto his chest and rest any time.

8. Edge of the Bed, Feet on the Floor

Edge of the bed position with the WildNightX pillow, illustrated — Edge of the bed on the pillow

Great when he's much taller, or when kneeling hurts.

Pillow spot: at the edge of the mattress, under her hips, while she lies back with her feet on the floor.

What it saves her: the lift brings her hips to a comfy height, so nobody has to stretch or crouch to line up.

Why women like it: she lies back and relaxes while he stands. The effort is all on his side.

She stays in charge of: the height, by scooting up or down the slope. A bed pillow slides off the edge. This one stays put.

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