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Short answer: The best sex positions for couples who want to feel close are face to face, with lots of skin contact: elevated missionary, seated lotus, and the slow coital alignment grind. A 27° wedge like the WildNightX Pillow does the holding, so you can stay close and slow instead of working to hold a position.
Sex still happens. But it's lights off, eyes closed, and done. You're together, but it doesn't feel close.
One woman in her 40s wrote on Reddit that when sex fades, the little things go with it: "people also stop flirting, quit kissing and making out, don't snuggle as much." She said she's sometimes "craving the afterglow as much as anything."
So we picked the best couple sex positions for one thing only: closeness. Eye contact, kissing, skin on skin. Each one uses the WildNightX Pillow, a 27° memory foam pillow that holds the angle for you, so nobody is busy holding themselves up and you can stay face to face as long as you like.
"One of the most common reasons why people engage in sex in relationships is to enhance intimacy and feel closer to the partner"
What's the best sex position for feeling close? This one. Face to face, foreheads touching.
Why it feels close: you can see each other's eyes, kiss, and breathe together the whole time.
Where the pillow goes: under her hips and lower back.
How the lift helps: it brings her to him, so he rests on his forearms instead of locked arms. Slow is easy when nobody is straining.
Try this: rest your foreheads together and say one thing you love about her.
Ask us what is the best position in sex for closeness, and this is the other answer. Eye to eye, arms around each other.
Why it feels close: you're chest to chest, and there's no top or bottom. You're just together.
Where the pillow goes: behind his back as he sits up on the bed. She sits in his lap, facing him.
How the lift helps: he leans back against the foam instead of holding himself upright, so his arms are free to hold her.
Try this: slow down until you're barely moving, and just look at each other.
For couples who want to enjoy it at the same time. One Reddit user said it "slightly bums me out that when we have sex it's kind of like we're just taking turns to do things for each other instead of feeling good simultaneously."
Why it feels close: your bodies stay pressed together, and you move as one, slowly.
Where the pillow goes: low under her hips, with her legs relaxed. He shifts a little higher than in missionary.
How the lift helps: the fixed 27° keeps you lined up, so nobody has to adjust or start over.
Try this: match your breathing. It sounds small. It isn't.
Warm, slow, and held from behind.
Why it feels close: his whole body wraps around hers, and his arms stay around her the whole time.
Where the pillow goes: under her hips and waist while you both lie on your sides.
How the lift helps: the foam tips her hips back a little, so the angle is there without anyone holding a position.
Try this: kiss the back of her neck and tell her what you're thinking. Not every back likes lying on its side, so skip this one if it aches.
She's on top, he's propped up. She leans in, and you're nose to nose.
Why it feels close: she sets the pace, and he's right at kissing height. If you're a guy wondering about the best sex positions for guys who want her closer, start here.
Where the pillow goes: behind his back, as a firm backrest.
How the lift helps: no neck strain for him, so he can hold her face and kiss her instead of craning up.
Try this: let her lead, and keep your hands on her back, pulling her close.
The laziest way to stay face to face.
Why it feels close: you lie on your sides, looking at each other, with your legs tangled together.
Where the pillow goes: under her hip, so her hips tilt slightly toward him.
How the lift helps: the small tilt lines you up, so you can stay side by side without squirming to find the angle.
Try this: no rush at all. Talk, laugh, and kiss in between.
The finish we'd pick. Wrapped up, nowhere else to be.
Why it feels close: she wraps her arms and legs around him, and you hold each other as tight as you want.
Where the pillow goes: under her hips and lower back, like #1.
How the lift helps: the foam holds her up, so she can relax into his arms instead of holding the angle herself.
Try this: don't get up right after. Stay wrapped up for the afterglow. As sex therapist Eva Dillon told CNN, "At the end of any sexual encounter, you want to be able to look forward to the next time with anticipation and delight."
Face-to-face positions with lots of skin contact: elevated missionary, seated lotus and the coital alignment grind. A firm pillow does the holding, so you can stay close and slow without tired arms.
#1, Elevated Missionary, or #2, Seated Lotus. In both, you're face to face the whole time. The pillow lifts her hips in #1 and props him up in #2, so nobody strains.
Pick one position and stay there. Match your breathing, kiss more, and say what you like. As intimacy coach Elle Chase told Bustle, "Our partners aren't mind readers and can't really know what we like without us letting them know."
Yes. The WildNightX Pillow has a soft, breathable linen cover. It zips off and goes in the washing machine.
Start with #1 tonight, then try #2 on a night with no alarm the next morning. Both keep you face to face and close.
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